WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS DIE
A WINDOW INTO PERSONALITY AND SOCIAL DECAY
by George H. Withers Ph.D.
Divorce is a psychological stress test that captures predictable
variations in personality. Personality, not intelligence, shapes
relationships. Relational health is difficult to understand when
professionals and partners skip over core dynamics of personality.
This book defines personality agendas that reside beneath our surface
Many adults are fascinated with medical death. Maturing adults
want to know why their relationships are dying. Interpersonal mystery
may have some initial appeal, yet it confounds relationships and
prolongs painful losses. Dr. Withers is a psychologist who reduces
the knowledge gap between what clients and practitioners know regarding
personality and how it shapes lives. Personality influences perception,
reasoning and thus relational health.
Each year millions unknowingly grapple with maladaptive personality.
Adults have been abusing institutions such as marriage and Congress
throughout history. Individuals who have tried to salvage a close
relationship will have their instincts validated. Most adults want
relationships, but many resist having their interpersonal motives
scrutinized by others.
Relationships do not mysteriously die. Interpersonal decline promotes
both adaptive and maladaptive anxiety. Separating fact from fiction
has tormented great thinkers throughout history. Our founding fathers
worried about the longevity of their fledgling union and the generational
emergence of evil. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. challenged us to
improve the validity of our social judgments. Maturing adults frequently
find themselves interacting with others who fictionalize interpersonal
reality. This elitism drives needless aggression and social decay.